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Friday, January 02, 2009
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Dear editor, As I write this letter, I hear the sound of children laughing and playing in the Napa Emergency Women’s Services playroom. I feel grateful their mother is here for help. I think about the violence seen by these children during their young lives and realize the importance of the opportunity NEWS has to make a difference for them.

This brings my thoughts to a lovely evening in June when folks came from all over the world for an incredible night of bidding on magnificent Napa Valley wine under the big white tent at the Meadowood Resort. It was amazing to be in the same spot as Oprah Winfrey and Her Royal Highness Princess Nandi Zulu!
Those who enjoyed the comedy of Jay Leno and the five-star menu may not have realized that their bids translated into a safe place for children who have been exposed to domestic violence. The NEWS Children’s Club program is a place where kids can talk about their fears, they can know they are not alone and understand that when their parents were fighting it was never their fault.

We who work toward an end to domestic violence know that children exposed to the abuse between their parents are at risk to repeat what they experience. Thanks to funding through Auction Napa Valley, NEWS is working to beat those odds. We model healthy communication, we talk to kids about how special they are, help them find ways they can keep themselves safe both physically and emotionally, and we also have fun. Our program gives kids an outlet to express themselves with activities like art projects, cooking activities and nature hikes, and every child receives a backpack filled with school supplies, personal items and even a stuffed animal.
Thank you to everyone at Auction Napa Valley for your hard work and success in putting on a world-class event that makes a significant difference in the lives of children like the ones in the NEWS playroom this morning.

With the help of Auction Napa Valley, we at Napa Emergency Women’s Services will break they cycle of violence for the next generation.
Tracy Lamb, executive director / Napa Emergency Women’s Services
7 comment(s)

kevin wrote on Jan 2, 2009 7:53 AM:

" And the shelter for abused men is where?? "

alucawanza wrote on Jan 2, 2009 11:48 AM:

" Kevin: If you need a shelter for abused men I'm sure the Napa Women's Emergency Services will help you. Give them a call. Tlhey would probably take you in or refer you to the proper organization. They wouldn't turn you away.
Or...get one started if you see the need. Call them and find out how to proceed. Abused men are looking to you now for leadership. "

JimClark wrote on Jan 2, 2009 1:09 PM:

" Abuse of humankind seems to have been widespread since before recorded civilization. Back in the good old 1960s we put our faith and trust in Social Workers, Psychologists & Psychiatrists. That was forty years ago; probably earlier than that. The excuse that nobody really identified the left it ignored and almost expected. So? That was then. What about now; some forty+ years later?
It really goes beyond that. Doing one’s own thing, giving birth to children nobody really planned on or wanted. The resentment of a parent who focuses there anger on the defenseless (true) victim of those “doing one’s own thing” is a large part of the mentality of the arrested adolescent mentality of our age. "

pharper wrote on Jan 2, 2009 1:16 PM:

" Yes, the scores of men battered and bruised by violent women are in definite need of shelter.

When there's a high demand for a men's shelter, I'm sure someone would be happy to build one, Kevin. But until such time as abuse is not overwhelmingly committed by men (with a very small percentage of domestic abuse committed by women) I don't think that's likely to happen. Besides, it seems to me like a lot of men see abuse as being asked to take out the trash, or being "nagged" all the time. "

Ruff Limblog wrote on Jan 2, 2009 3:20 PM:

" I'd like to take this comment thread back from the 'abused men' hijacker grinch for a moment to say...

IT'S NICE to know abused women and children have a shelter!

I think that was the whole point of the author, a well-worded 'Thank You' to the people of good-will who had a good time and helped some children as well.

I'm sorry that the hijacker grinch lost the Thanksgiving and Christmas spirit by January 2nd.

January 2nd is just too soon to start picking at a children's shelter!

~Ruff "

winewoman wrote on Jan 2, 2009 4:20 PM:

" Ms. Lamb, thank you for sharing the story of Napa Emergency Womens Services and your heartfelt thanks to the Napa Valley Wine Auction. It seems you are doing great work and helping the littlest and most vulnerable in our society. Your work will hopefully help to mitigate the risk of these young people becoming victims of domestic abuse and/or becoming victimizers themselves as they grow up. Thank you. "

db76 wrote on Jan 2, 2009 5:33 PM:

" One-third of visits to emergency rooms by women are the result of domestic violence. For men, it's close to one in a hundred. So, kevin, given that there are very limited resources, why do you think there should be a shelter for abused men? "

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