Keeping prom night clean
A poster hangs on the window of the Activities Office at Napa High School, admonishing students to refrain from suggestive dancing. J.L. Sousa/Register |
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From chaperones to chapstick, security tight at the dance
By JILLIAN JONES, Register Staff Writer
We’re not talking about your mother’s sock hop.
At the 21st century prom, not even the corsage is sacred. That baby’s breath, it turns out, may actually be a cover for contraband.
A stick of gum can be used to smuggle in liquid ecstasy. Buried deep within a tube of chapstick, any number of pills can slip undetected past chaperones.
That’s why, as teenagers become ever more resourceful, local schools are cracking down at dances on everything from chapstick to mouthwash, from deodorant to gum.
“It just seems like for us it’s harder to catch because a lot of times it’s more hidden,” said Vintage High Dean of Students Sharon Anderson, who is preparing for this weekend’s Vintage High Prom.
When students arrive at the Design Galleria in San Francisco, they will be patted down, their bags searched. Chaperones will rummage through corsages and boutonnieres for any illegal substance.
In the event that a student displays unusual behavior, or if any hint of alcohol is detected, chaperones will have a breathalyzer near.
Adhering to a strict zero-tolerance policy, Anderson said chaperones will leave no stone unturned — or stoner, as the case may be.
That means no liquids whatsoever — no perfume, mouthwash, eye drops.
No mints or gum. No over-the-counter meds.
Prescription medication such as inhalers or birth control pills must be checked at the front and administered only under the supervision of a chaperone.
Even deodorant must be left at the door, said Anderson, explaining the process whereby students roll up and remove the deodorant from its casing, hiding anything from a handful of pills to marijuana in the tube, and then roll the deodorant down.
The stricter-than-ever rules, she said, are an indication of the times. Drug use among teens is more prevalent than it was even during her days as a student in the rebellious 1960s, said Anderson.
And it’s not just Vintage. Schools across the county are upping their precautions in preparation for the prom.
Lipstick traces
At Napa High’s prom last month, the school adopted a controversial chapstick ban.
Just like deodorant, drugs can be hidden in the tube beneath the chapstick, said Anderson, who has also enforced the rule at Vintage in the past.
While interpretations of the rule vary among administrators, some students at Napa High said they were asked to apply their last coat of lipstick before entering the prom.
“Girls were pinching their lips in line before pictures,” said Napa High sophomore Olivia Barker. Others stuffed lipstick into their bras, slipping into the bathroom for a surreptitious application.
Both Anderson and Napa High Dean of Students Al Bahn said their schools will consider permanently implementing the “no lipstick” rule next year.
“Students are very creative,” said Barbara Franco, Napa High principal, earlier this year. “We want to have safe events. … When information comes to us through a reliable source, then we respond to that.”
Students including Mary-Kathryn Peck at Napa High call the policy “obscene.”
“It’s kind of stupid that we have to be forced to dance without chapstick because someone once used it to hide drugs,” said Barker.
“They kind of went over the top,” said Brian Perry, a senior at Napa High.
Anderson defends the rules, however, explaining that parents entrust her with the safety of their children.
“I hold a tight ship, and I would much rather have people blame me for being too strict than not strict enough,” she said.
Some smaller schools rely primarily on their familiarity with students to recognize unusual behavior.
Monica Tipton, principal at New Technology High School, said the school forbids liquids and medications, “but we don’t search handbags or anything as they come in.”
“We could, if we felt there was a need to,” she added. “It’s not that we turn a blind eye to those things. It’s that kids know we are watching.”
At Justin-Siena High School, Dean of Students Steve Meyer said chaperones don’t ban meds, but keep an eye out for unusual behavior. He also keeps a breathalyzer handy, and is trained to conduct a sobriety test.
Though he insists he trusts his students, Bob Yeend, Justin-Siena junior class moderator, acknowledged, “If a student really wanted to bring some unauthorized substance, I suppose they could.”
Despite the admitted need for increased vigilance, school officials said students typically behave, given the threat of not being able to walk the stage at graduation.
Additional precautions — such as scheduling school meetings before the prom, having a deluge of chaperones and enforcing a policy that prohibits students from leaving prom early — keep the majority of students in line, according to administrators.
‘Freak’ out
Additional rules extend all the way from dress to the type of dance allowed.
A sign above Napa High’s Activities Office depicts two wriggling stick figures. The sign declares, “No freaking.”
The policy, implemented at local schools across the county, refers to a particularly raunchy style of dance. Vintage High Activities Director Gail Sims describes freaking as a modern style of “bump and grind.”
“I don’t think our parents’ generation would even be able to make it at today’s dances,” Barker said with a laugh. “My mom doesn’t even know what freaking is.”
At her prom, one student danced with the sign itself, said Barker. Upside down, the stick figures demonstrated an especially vulgar pose.
“We say no freaking, and we try to enforce it,” said Sims, “but it’s a crazy bunch of kids, and when you get 600-plus students out there enjoying the dance, all we can do is do our best to make it appropriate.”
“We’re not prudes,” added Sims, “and we understand that each generation has their own style of pop dancing. We just don’t want it too sexual on the dance floor.”
Meyer said at Justin-Siena, chaperones “walk around and try to keep them as separated as they can.”
Chaperones at prom must also screen for inappropriate attire, said Sims.
Young men should wear tuxedos, she said, though suits are acceptable as well.
No zoot suits, as chains are not allowed.
“They must remain fully clothed,” added Sims. “Young men can only take off their jackets.”
Ladies’ formalwear must also be appropriate, she said, and dresses may not be lifted above the waist.
In language students might understand, Sims explained: Dresses similar to those worn at the Oscars are acceptable. Those worn at the MTV Awards are not. The Grammies are a gray area, she said, noting that this year’s Grammies were more tasteful than most.
Meyer said with a sigh, “I think through the years things have definitely changed. … Every adult should go to a high school dance and experience it and see what today’s society is like. It might help them understand teenagers a little better.”
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Grits wrote on May 30, 2008 1:43 PM:
God help us! "
controm wrote on May 20, 2008 10:17 PM:
savetycoon wrote on May 16, 2008 8:21 AM:
She was still a underage minor, that no adult in thier right mind should lower themselves down to have sexual relations with a minor.
Men/women who are in the adult catagorey, should not have anything to do with minors until they hit the legal age of 18, as our law says.
end of discussion "
CHACHA wrote on May 13, 2008 3:18 PM:
CHACHA wrote on May 13, 2008 3:16 PM:
napagirl7707 wrote on May 12, 2008 2:11 PM:
skeptic wrote on May 10, 2008 10:51 PM:
theodora wrote on May 9, 2008 11:34 PM:
Joe just has a VERY stereotypical perspective of us, and needs to get out. That's all. If more people respected us, and didn't follow the rule, "Children should be seen, and not heard." the world might just be a better place. Nut is anyone willing to take that chance? "
Laughingatthis wrote on May 9, 2008 2:19 PM:
cordell wrote on May 9, 2008 8:21 AM:
Amen. "
savetycoon wrote on May 9, 2008 8:15 AM:
HE just doesn't understand much that is going on todays society. does he. "
theodora wrote on May 8, 2008 10:48 PM:
Not all kids are lazy!! Nor do all kids not to know how to dance!! And yes, we all think we are so tough and cool too. How you ever met even met a kid? My whole school is filled with honors students, and kids taking multiple AP's. We have to do sports every afternoon, five days a week. Not counting meets on weekends. Does this sound lazy to you?
"Freaking" isn't even that much of a problem. Its just kids dancing. And, yes, it slightly resembles sex, but come on - just about everything does these day on TV. But there are other kids who love to tango, swing dance, and *gasp* waltz!
And the kids who act "tough and cool," are just the kids who like to freak out society/parents. Now what are those called again? Oh yeah! TEENAGERS!!
Actually get out in the world, and meet some new people - hopefully ones who can change your view the world's next generation. "
opiniagirl wrote on May 8, 2008 8:16 PM:
Put the responsibility back in the hands of the parents...the only problem is that the kids may forge signatures, but
I think that your idea is right in target! Parents should be personally involved, morally accountable and held financially responsible! I love it! "
funnyme wrote on May 8, 2008 10:50 AM:
Ask the parents that if they want their kid to attend the prom they have to sign a "acceptance of responsibility slip" that states the parents have searched their kids for drugs head to toe, purses and pockets and have also given a dos and don'ts lecture. Failure to comply means a substantial fine ($$$).
And if the kids don't bring the "slip", I guess they're not going!
The responsibility of raising kids includes their behavior and consequences.
I know it is not easy. I have two girls! "
lousy naive ignorant napan wrote on May 8, 2008 7:23 AM:
yamamama wrote on May 8, 2008 5:50 AM:
Joe wrote on May 8, 2008 1:19 AM:
edwest wrote on May 7, 2008 11:09 PM:
RachelofNapa wrote on May 7, 2008 9:58 PM:
most people take the drugs BEFORE the dance or drink in the limo they took!!!! DUH.
and really... if any kid wanted to get drugs into the dance they would just put them in the bra or undies... places that get avoided in any kind of pat down anyways so the school wouldent get sued for touching the kiddies in any inappropriate manner!!!!!!!!
the sign is a stunt to make the kids laugh and the parents feel like something is getting done.
kids will be kids people. and the more pressure you put on them the more they are going to rebel! "
NapaNana wrote on May 7, 2008 2:23 PM:
Anyone remember the 60's? The 70's The 80's? and what the teens came up with then to "shock" society?
It is just desserts to know that these "Freaking kids" will one day be sending their kids to the prom....just as the "Disco Ducks" did.......... "
NapaNana wrote on May 7, 2008 1:52 PM:
Kids have been sneaking things into the Prom sence the Prom was invented!
It isn't good, but it happens. But to treat ALL of the Prom goers as possible suspects in a drug ring is completely over the top.
No chapstick? Come on now.
As a general rule, most of the kids that do go to the Prom are good kids.....with a few partiers here and there. The kids with the "drug problems" wouldn't be caught dead at the Prom!
I WAS impressed with the new and improved security that has been provided at these events for our kids.
I am a VERY strict parent that has raised a housefull of boys who have adorned me with the title of B**** Mom from Hell.....with love. This is a bit too much even for me!
Pat them down for goodness sakes ...peek in purses if you all want. The ones that come already loaded aren't that hard to spot. And the ones that show signs of it during the dance aren't that hard to spot either!
Homeland Airport Security at the Prom......
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opiniagirl wrote on May 7, 2008 11:21 AM:
MarshaMarsha wrote on May 7, 2008 10:38 AM:
However: Dancing IS a way of practicing freedom of expression. But lewd (or "lude" as one girl with opinion wrote....LOL) expression is not something that would be acceptable at an elite event like Prom. According to history, Prom is for best dress, best escort, and best behavior, and "freaking" is not the best our teens can do. "
lousy naive ignorant napan wrote on May 7, 2008 9:45 AM:
I have no problem with the school trying to control drugs and alcohol at a school sanctioned event. I have no problem with the school demanding that people keep their clothes on. I just find it really amusing that the school is trying to control they way people dance. I have no doubt that dancing has changed since I've left school, but in the scheme of things, there are a lot of worse things that high school kids can do than "freak" dancing. "
opiniagirl wrote on May 7, 2008 8:37 AM:
pat wrote on May 7, 2008 8:31 AM:
besmartbesafe wrote on May 7, 2008 7:28 AM:
Drugs are a high concern of many parents. The kids that choose to take drugs will find a way to do so.....but what about the kids who fall victim to drugs slipped into their drink or given to them in a stick of gum....those kids didn't make the choice, it was made for them and the result of what may happen later is a terrible one that nobody wants to experience.
We we all kids at one point and during the time of our teen years we all thought that the rules were to strict!! This will also be the same feeling of our grandkids, and great-grandkids, etc...
I want my child to have a good time, what I want more is for my child to be safe. The restrictions while many are needed to ensure that safety. I am sure that the parents of the child who may overdose, or drink to the point of possible death, i can go on but don't really need too....wouldn't hesitate to blame the school in one way or another for not protecting their child, if anything terrible were to happen to thier child!!! "
writergirl wrote on May 7, 2008 12:13 AM:
I hope the community sees the parallel in this reaction to the obscene degradation of our constitution and bill of rights.
I hope those in charge at Vintage seriously think about the implications of their actions and realize the ineffectiveness of this solution. In cases like this, those who want to do drugs will always find a way.
The way to change a society is to provide out-reach, support, and education for those at risk- Things that, evidently our current government - and now our school system - don't seem to value. "
lousy naive ignorant napan wrote on May 6, 2008 11:24 PM:
Whether or not you believe that this type of dancing is appropriate for a high school prom, you shouldn't pass judgement on those who do it. "
vocal-de-local wrote on May 6, 2008 10:19 PM:
At least someone has enough common sense to allow birth control into the prom, preferably condoms, just in case it turns into an org-y. I can hardly believe parents let their kids attend these functions.
I guess we must ask ourselves, are we ready to go to the next place of publicly displayed sexual acts? It's possible you know. I think teens today are subjected to way too much internet access to forbidden sites and reality tv.
And...this is not Elvis. Sure parents didn't like him, but at least Elvis was dancing by himself. It's quite another matter when people are mimicking sex between two or more people. What's next? We've been to this place before, historically speaking, in Rome. Is that the direction we want to head? Backwards? "
opiniagirl wrote on May 6, 2008 9:58 PM:
I just love it when people say “I lost control, and I just had to let my child find his (or her) own way and suffer natural consequences!” Are you kidding? What you did was “give up” and unleash an uncivilized brat onto society and let his or her victims do the parenting for you. Nice job! Here’s an idea…Parents…if your kid has gotten boozed up, hopped in the back of car, popped some pills or participated in any other CRIMINAL behavior, keep them home from the prom and save the rest of us the burden of monitoring their behavior. Now that’s an opportunity to parent in a way that could change the direction of your morally struggling child’s life! Quit being scared of your own children and whip them into shape before law enforcement does!
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opiniagirl wrote on May 6, 2008 9:44 PM:
Elvis and Madonna were criticized for their "ludeness", however, people had a choice not to subject themselves to the vulgarity if they were uncomfortable with it, why should the kids who find overtly sexual dancing offensive be subjected to it at their own Prom. Refraining from this behavior is appropriate for this particular venue.
Maybe the morally lacking parents can all get together and throw their teens a separate party so that their children can "express themselves" in a private setting and others can enjoy their school sponsored Prom without being mortified by the lude conduct of their morally looser peers.
"
controm wrote on May 6, 2008 8:47 PM:
Dwayne wrote on May 6, 2008 5:39 PM:
Every one of the teens are being treated like they are perpetrators of some kind. It's abundantly clear that the "school" has failed to teach personal responsibility. It's no wonder that our schools are a total failure. "
momtoo wrote on May 6, 2008 5:33 PM:
If kids want to dance like they are having intercourse and do drugs and the parents are dumb enough to see no wrongdoing, then let them. But not at a school function for goodness sakes! yuck! And to anyone that thinks this "freak" dancing is just self expression, then I don't think you are looking hard enough. The moves are appropriate inside the bedroom,and ridiculous outside of it. "
FerrariGTC wrote on May 6, 2008 5:22 PM:
twinmama wrote on May 6, 2008 5:10 PM:
Regarding the sign. Most signs generally have a picture for those that can't read... There is NOTHING about the image that suggests dancing... Surely it means NO SEX here!
Also... REALLY??? You're going to be TOUCHING students? Patting them all down? Wow.. I can remember a few freaky teachers at my high school that would have jumped at the opportunity to chaperone... Put some monitors in the BATHROOM... that's where they go to do their drugs... don't allow students to come and go from the dance... Assume that drug users know how to get a fix... regardless of how stupid their behavior is.
Start a drug education program on campus... IE... in your science classes where students actually learn (if they are still capable of what drugs do to their bodies and brains at the cellular level... trust me... half their parents don't even know....
Known drug offenders should not be able to purchase tickets (come on... crack down before the dance!!!)
Or how about a monitored Coat Check... Say NEAR the photo section???? Allowing kids to spruce up before their pics.rs
Hard to beleive that it's educators that came up with this practice... and you think you're qualified to teach??? "
nvchell wrote on May 6, 2008 3:46 PM:
xmrs09 wrote on May 6, 2008 3:23 PM:
Concerned Citizen wrote on May 6, 2008 3:07 PM:
pat wrote on May 6, 2008 3:06 PM:
By the way, anyone know where I can get one of those signs? That is hilarious. Maybe some young entrepreneur will get some shirts made and sell them at school. I’ll take two, please.
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proudmom wrote on May 6, 2008 2:55 PM:
To the kids: Maybe its too late now, but next year try and make your own prom if the schools are going to control every aspect of your lives, then there is no hope for your future. Prom is your last dance in high school...you should be able to enjoy it as you please....we are trying to move forward not backwards with the generations! My son wanted a mohawk haircut, so I let him have it and guess what the school almost had a cow!...first they tell us that they NEED uniforms...what! I'm sorry but I cannot continue to have the schools tell me how my son is going to dress, or what his haircut should look like! "
kayd44 wrote on May 6, 2008 1:31 PM:
I think the schools should monitor, but the kids will find a way to bring things in, just to get some attention. I honestly don't believe they care what it is they smuggle in, just that fact that they got by the adults. "
opiniagirl wrote on May 6, 2008 12:57 PM:
The only reason that the school has to adopt these policies is because parents aren't raising kids with any type of moral compass. As a prior respectful teen and parent of 4 respectful moral children (including 1 teen daughter), I'm disappointed not in the school or the kids; but the parents that refuse to raise their children and let society do it for them. My teenage daughter finds this behavior foul and has the right not to have it shoved in her face. How about them apples?
"
skiph wrote on May 6, 2008 12:28 PM:
Why is everything so much about prevention? My restricting the masses to stop the few, it seems like proms and social functions are more like prisons with decorations.
Why doesn't Napa have any clubs? I remember in the late 90's we had at least 4 of them.
When I drove a taxi...one of the most often asked questions by the tourists was "Where's a good place to dance?". My standard answer was "anywhere but Napa". "
tazzmaster wrote on May 6, 2008 12:19 PM:
pharper wrote on May 6, 2008 12:15 PM:
jenny99 wrote on May 6, 2008 12:15 PM:
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lousy naive ignorant napan wrote on May 6, 2008 12:04 PM:
vocal-de-local wrote on May 6, 2008 11:47 AM:
On a personal level, I like dancing. My extended family go on many vacations together and we invariably end out in some dance club somewhere. I do not live a particularly sheltered life. But the part where they begin mimicking sexual acts, that's where I draw the line. And teenagers, in a competitive dance environment, will go to that place and beyond because of their lack of experience with self control.
If my teen attended one of these functions, I would keep an eye on the situation, make certain that at least one of the chaperone's was well acquainted with my child and that the chaperone to student ratio was high. And I would be appreciative of the higher surveillance.
We should also be concerned about comments from people like wowquebonita who say, "Teens aren't dumb...we're very creative and sneaky"
What kind of monsters have we raised? It's not very bonita, not at all and either is her comment. Here's my comment to wowquebonita: What's dumb is frying a still developing brain with hard drugs so that you cannot function in the adult work world. So go ahead, be creative and sneaky, ruin your potential so that you'll be working fast food the rest of your life. Hardly a creative endeavor. "
MarshaMarsha wrote on May 6, 2008 10:23 AM:
Just remember: These teens, the ones that you are bullying to conform to YOUR standards? They are the same ones who will pick your nursing home. "
tgrl707 wrote on May 6, 2008 9:21 AM:
Grape-Town wrote on May 6, 2008 9:15 AM:
pat wrote on May 6, 2008 9:02 AM:
my2cents68 wrote on May 6, 2008 8:43 AM:
And then my kids wonder why I'm so paranoid about keeping them safe and constantly "on their backs". Right now, young teens look up to the older ones to see what's "cool" and then as they say, it's monkey see, monkey tries to do. I wish older teens would take this into consideration. Whether they like it or not, they are also role models for the younger generations.
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bearsinnapa wrote on May 6, 2008 8:11 AM:
cordell wrote on May 6, 2008 8:08 AM:
savetycoon wrote on May 6, 2008 8:05 AM:
make napa better wrote on May 6, 2008 7:58 AM:
If you've ever seen the movie footloose, it's soooo like this town!
Been working so hard
I'm punching my card
Eight hours, for what
Oh, tell me what I got
I've done this feeling
That time's just holding me down
I'll hit the ceiling
Or else I'll tear up this town
Now I gotta cut
Loose, footloose
Kick off your Sunday shoes
Please, Louise
Pull me offa my knees
Jack, get back
C'mon before we crack
Lose your blues
Everybody cut footloose
You're playing so cool
Obeying every rule
Dig way down in your heart
You're yearning, yearning for some
Somebody to tell you
That life ain't passing you by
I'm trying to tell you
It will if you don't even try
You can fly if you'd only cut
Loose, footloose
Kick off your Sunday shoes
Oowhee, Marie
Shake it, shake it for me
Whoa, Milo
C'mon, c'mon let's go
Lose your blues
Everybody cut footloose
We got to turn you around
You put your feet on the ground
Now take a hold of your ball
I'm turning it
(Repeat *) "
skippert wrote on May 6, 2008 7:22 AM:
wowquebonita wrote on May 6, 2008 1:24 AM: