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From chaperones to chapstick, security tight at the dance
Tuesday, May 06, 2008
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We’re not talking about your mother’s sock hop.

At the 21st century prom, not even the corsage is sacred. That baby’s breath, it turns out, may actually be a cover for contraband.
A stick of gum can be used to smuggle in liquid ecstasy. Buried deep within a tube of chapstick, any number of pills can slip undetected past chaperones.

That’s why, as teenagers become ever more resourceful, local schools are cracking down at dances on everything from chapstick to mouthwash, from deodorant to gum.
“It just seems like for us it’s harder to catch because a lot of times it’s more hidden,” said Vintage High Dean of Students Sharon Anderson, who is preparing for this weekend’s Vintage High Prom.

When students arrive at the Design Galleria in San Francisco, they will be patted down, their bags searched. Chaperones will rummage through corsages and boutonnieres for any illegal substance.
In the event that a student displays unusual behavior, or if any hint of alcohol is detected, chaperones will have a breathalyzer near.

Adhering to a strict zero-tolerance policy, Anderson said chaperones will leave no stone  unturned — or stoner, as the case may be.

That means no liquids whatsoever — no perfume, mouthwash, eye drops.

No mints or gum. No over-the-counter meds.

Prescription medication such as inhalers or birth control pills must be checked at the front and administered only under the supervision of a chaperone.

Even deodorant must be left at the door, said Anderson, explaining the process whereby students roll up and remove the deodorant from its casing, hiding anything from a handful of pills to marijuana in the tube, and then roll the deodorant down.

The stricter-than-ever rules, she said, are an indication of the times. Drug use among teens is more prevalent than it was even during her days as a student in the rebellious 1960s, said Anderson.

And it’s not just Vintage. Schools across the county are upping their precautions in preparation for the prom.

Lipstick traces

At Napa High’s prom last month, the school adopted a controversial chapstick ban.

Just like deodorant, drugs can be hidden in the tube beneath the chapstick, said Anderson, who has also enforced the rule at Vintage in the past.

While interpretations of the rule vary among administrators, some students at Napa High said they were asked to apply their last coat of lipstick before entering the prom.

“Girls were pinching their lips in line before pictures,” said Napa High sophomore Olivia Barker. Others stuffed lipstick into their bras, slipping into the bathroom for a surreptitious application.

Both Anderson and Napa High Dean of Students Al Bahn said their schools will consider permanently implementing the “no lipstick” rule next year.

“Students are very creative,” said Barbara Franco, Napa High principal, earlier this year. “We want to have safe events. … When information comes to us through a reliable source, then we respond to that.”

Students including Mary-Kathryn Peck at Napa High call the policy “obscene.”

“It’s kind of stupid that we have to be forced to dance without chapstick because someone once used it to hide drugs,” said Barker.

“They kind of went over the top,” said Brian Perry, a senior at Napa High.

Anderson defends the rules, however, explaining that parents entrust her with the safety of their children.

“I hold a tight ship, and I would much rather have people blame me for being too strict than not strict enough,” she said.

Some smaller schools rely primarily on their familiarity with students to recognize unusual behavior.

Monica Tipton, principal at New Technology High School, said the school forbids liquids and medications, “but we don’t search handbags or anything as they come in.”

“We could, if we felt there was a need to,” she added. “It’s not that we turn a blind eye to those things. It’s that kids know we are watching.”

At Justin-Siena High School, Dean of Students Steve Meyer said chaperones don’t ban meds, but keep an eye out for unusual behavior. He also keeps a breathalyzer handy, and is trained to conduct a sobriety test.

Though he insists he trusts his students, Bob Yeend, Justin-Siena junior class moderator, acknowledged, “If a student really wanted to bring some unauthorized substance, I suppose they could.”

Despite the admitted need for increased vigilance, school officials said students typically behave, given the threat of not being able to walk the stage at graduation.

Additional precautions — such as scheduling school meetings before the prom, having a deluge of chaperones and enforcing a policy that prohibits students from leaving prom early — keep the majority of students in line, according to administrators.

‘Freak’ out

Additional rules extend all the way from dress to the type of dance allowed.

A sign above Napa High’s Activities Office depicts two wriggling stick figures. The sign declares, “No freaking.”

The policy, implemented at local schools across the county, refers to a particularly raunchy style of dance. Vintage High Activities Director Gail Sims describes freaking as a modern style of “bump and grind.”

“I don’t think our parents’ generation would even be able to make it at today’s dances,” Barker said with a laugh. “My mom doesn’t even know what freaking is.”

At her prom, one student danced with the sign itself, said Barker. Upside down, the stick figures demonstrated an especially vulgar pose.

“We say no freaking, and we try to enforce it,” said Sims, “but it’s a crazy bunch of kids, and when you get 600-plus students out there enjoying the dance, all we can do is do our best to make it appropriate.”

“We’re not prudes,” added Sims, “and we understand that each generation has their own style of pop dancing. We just don’t want it too sexual on the dance floor.”

Meyer said at Justin-Siena, chaperones “walk around and try to keep them as separated as they can.”

Chaperones at prom must also screen for inappropriate attire, said Sims.

Young men should wear tuxedos, she said, though suits are acceptable as well.

No zoot suits, as chains are not allowed.

“They must remain fully clothed,” added Sims. “Young men can only take off their jackets.”

Ladies’ formalwear must also be appropriate, she said, and dresses may not be lifted above the waist.

In language students might understand, Sims explained: Dresses similar to those worn at the Oscars are acceptable. Those worn at the MTV Awards are not. The Grammies are a gray area, she said, noting that this year’s Grammies were more tasteful than most.

Meyer said with a sigh, “I think through the years things have definitely changed. … Every adult should go to a high school dance and experience it and see what today’s society is like. It might help them understand teenagers a little better.”
61 comment(s)

Grits wrote on May 30, 2008 1:43 PM:

" Terrific! They can't freak on the dance floor, but they can check their birth control at the door and have it administered under the supervision of a chaperone!

God help us! "

controm wrote on May 20, 2008 10:17 PM:

" well opinagirl no one is forcing these children to freak with each other it is simply a choice made by both just and as i stated before you are just scared of what you do not know as well elvis and madona are completely comparable with this again no one is being forced to do this and just because someone chooses to dance like this does not make them a loser by any means you are simply someone who is scared to adapt to the world you live in and will probably home school your kids till they re 40 "

savetycoon wrote on May 16, 2008 8:21 AM:

" it doesnt matter if she was 17 in a half.
She was still a underage minor, that no adult in thier right mind should lower themselves down to have sexual relations with a minor.

Men/women who are in the adult catagorey, should not have anything to do with minors until they hit the legal age of 18, as our law says.
end of discussion "

CHACHA wrote on May 13, 2008 3:18 PM:

" savteycoon: that girl was 17 not 16, she'll be 18 in 9 months!!! get over that by the way!!!!! "

CHACHA wrote on May 13, 2008 3:16 PM:

" OH MY GOD!!!! IM OLDSKOOL, NO ZOOT SUITS?!?!??!?!?!?!?!?! WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU PEOPLE!?!?!?!?!?!?! "

napagirl7707 wrote on May 12, 2008 2:11 PM:

" Well search the kids. As a graduate on Napa High I dont know any kids that snuck escatsy in their chapstick but then again, they probably just did it at home before they left. The only real way to stop the problem is to stop it before it starts, at home. Come on parents pay attention! Maybe if you worked a little harder to keep your kids off drugs they wouldnt be sneaking it anywhere! Whats next bars on the windows of classrooms? How about prison wardons walking the halls? Glad I got out of high school alive...and sober I would like to mention "

skeptic wrote on May 10, 2008 10:51 PM:

" i'm even more ignorant and naive than napan because i've never had kids.i've enjoyed all the comments on various sides of the issue. i feel for the moms who don't want their daughters getting skanky. i like the comments comparing the search to a prison because i just saw a documentary about a maximum security prison where they show how the ingenious prisoners can hide drugs in a lipstick or chapstick . that's why they are contraband and they do body cavity searches.i say, wait a couple years for that.it takes a long time to convince an american to become a slave. as for dancing itself , i like the comments relating to things like elvis and the tango. it's hilarious that we old folk remember slow, formal dancing as being the thing that might result in something sexual , and now it's fast dancing . i would like to hear from any ballroom dancers watching this blog to chime in on the relevance of the tango to sex and the fact that, though it seems very explicit , has not been linked to any frenzy of uncontrolled orgies and drug use amongst practitioners. or has the tango already been banned at the prom and i'm even more ignorant than i thought? plato said some thing like, " the kids these days, they just aren't moral like in the old days". the fact is, the crime rate is half what it was 20 years ago, even half the school shootings and kidnappings and murder. that means this generation of teens are great, as theodora implies. it's television that has increased crime coverage 400%, not crime itself.if we fall like rome, it will be because we lost the republic, became less democratic, and tried to become an empire with dictator "

theodora wrote on May 9, 2008 11:34 PM:

" Thanks savetycoon and cordell. You guys made my day! (:

Joe just has a VERY stereotypical perspective of us, and needs to get out. That's all. If more people respected us, and didn't follow the rule, "Children should be seen, and not heard." the world might just be a better place. Nut is anyone willing to take that chance? "

Laughingatthis wrote on May 9, 2008 2:19 PM:

" C'mon everybody lets do the "hoaky poky" Put you right foot in put your right foot out put right foot in a shake it all about'" HA Ha Lets dance like our Grandma..Dont you have better things to do that to worry about chapstick!!k'mon its only one night. "

cordell wrote on May 9, 2008 8:21 AM:

" theodora,

Amen. "

savetycoon wrote on May 9, 2008 8:15 AM:

" to Theadora: Couldn't have said it better. thank you & that comment about us being lazy came from a guy who thinks it is ok for 30 year old men to be having sex with 16 year olds.
HE just doesn't understand much that is going on todays society. does he. "

theodora wrote on May 8, 2008 10:48 PM:

" To Joe,

Not all kids are lazy!! Nor do all kids not to know how to dance!! And yes, we all think we are so tough and cool too. How you ever met even met a kid? My whole school is filled with honors students, and kids taking multiple AP's. We have to do sports every afternoon, five days a week. Not counting meets on weekends. Does this sound lazy to you?
"Freaking" isn't even that much of a problem. Its just kids dancing. And, yes, it slightly resembles sex, but come on - just about everything does these day on TV. But there are other kids who love to tango, swing dance, and *gasp* waltz!
And the kids who act "tough and cool," are just the kids who like to freak out society/parents. Now what are those called again? Oh yeah! TEENAGERS!!
Actually get out in the world, and meet some new people - hopefully ones who can change your view the world's next generation. "

opiniagirl wrote on May 8, 2008 8:16 PM:

" funnyme...brilliant!

Put the responsibility back in the hands of the parents...the only problem is that the kids may forge signatures, but

I think that your idea is right in target! Parents should be personally involved, morally accountable and held financially responsible! I love it! "

funnyme wrote on May 8, 2008 10:50 AM:

" Leave that job to the parents. Let the parents be parents.

Ask the parents that if they want their kid to attend the prom they have to sign a "acceptance of responsibility slip" that states the parents have searched their kids for drugs head to toe, purses and pockets and have also given a dos and don'ts lecture. Failure to comply means a substantial fine ($$$).
And if the kids don't bring the "slip", I guess they're not going!

The responsibility of raising kids includes their behavior and consequences.
I know it is not easy. I have two girls! "

lousy naive ignorant napan wrote on May 8, 2008 7:23 AM:

" Does anyone remember a story in the news a few years ago when some school was having chaperones check girls underwear to make sure they weren't wearing a thong? Kinda makes having your bag checked not seem too bad... "

yamamama wrote on May 8, 2008 5:50 AM:

" I had a school principal that used to attend our dances. Whenever a slow song started, he would pull out a ruler and walk around the dance floor, putting it between dancers to make sure we were 12" away from our partner. "

Joe wrote on May 8, 2008 1:19 AM:

" The reason kids now a days "freak" is because most of them don't know how to dance. They all think it's all right to go up and start grinding on whoever they want. They see all this from the mtv hip hop videos growing up. Kids are so pathetic these days! Lazy, and they all think they are so tough and cool. "

edwest wrote on May 7, 2008 11:09 PM:

" Drugs are a challenge, but to go to this extent is a little over-board. As a parent of three graduates in the last few years, the school would be better to enforce a basic and respectful search etc, being reasonable. I wish the school put more thought into the incredible risk of having hundreds of our Seniors on the Highway and Freeways between here and S.F. The Napa Valley has no where to hold a prom? Driving to SF is more dangerous than anything you will find in most kids purses and pockets. Not every kid is a drug abusing, sex fiend. Keep the kids close to home from now on. "

RachelofNapa wrote on May 7, 2008 9:58 PM:

" LAME. and also. totally hyped up for the press! haveing been to many of the dances for both the main high schools i can tell you that the security is aweful! they may tell the press that they are doing all this great stuff like patting the kids down and looking in their pockets and purses... but really you get a courtesy look up and down told to trun out your pockets... which really who keeps anything in there? and a quick glance into an open bag or purse.

most people take the drugs BEFORE the dance or drink in the limo they took!!!! DUH.
and really... if any kid wanted to get drugs into the dance they would just put them in the bra or undies... places that get avoided in any kind of pat down anyways so the school wouldent get sued for touching the kiddies in any inappropriate manner!!!!!!!!

the sign is a stunt to make the kids laugh and the parents feel like something is getting done.

kids will be kids people. and the more pressure you put on them the more they are going to rebel! "

NapaNana wrote on May 7, 2008 2:23 PM:

" Don't worry so much about the freaking dancing. That will pass. Yes I do find it horrible and offensive and gross and all that and it should not be allowed. But part of that is freedom of expression of a teenager blah blah blah I'm sure I have ticked someone off....... I don't like it , but I cannot change it. But I do agree that we all should not have to see it!
Anyone remember the 60's? The 70's The 80's? and what the teens came up with then to "shock" society?
It is just desserts to know that these "Freaking kids" will one day be sending their kids to the prom....just as the "Disco Ducks" did.......... "

NapaNana wrote on May 7, 2008 1:52 PM:

" Whoo Hoo! This is getting all steamed up here.
Kids have been sneaking things into the Prom sence the Prom was invented!
It isn't good, but it happens. But to treat ALL of the Prom goers as possible suspects in a drug ring is completely over the top.
No chapstick? Come on now.
As a general rule, most of the kids that do go to the Prom are good kids.....with a few partiers here and there. The kids with the "drug problems" wouldn't be caught dead at the Prom!
I WAS impressed with the new and improved security that has been provided at these events for our kids.
I am a VERY strict parent that has raised a housefull of boys who have adorned me with the title of B**** Mom from Hell.....with love. This is a bit too much even for me!
Pat them down for goodness sakes ...peek in purses if you all want. The ones that come already loaded aren't that hard to spot. And the ones that show signs of it during the dance aren't that hard to spot either!
Homeland Airport Security at the Prom......

"

opiniagirl wrote on May 7, 2008 11:21 AM:

" Sorry MarshaMarsha and lousy naive ignorant napan! My spelling can be really awful sometimes, lol. I also agree that things could be a lot worse. I can't help but admire and respect all of you on this blog and others. We can agree (or agree to disagree) in a fun, creative forum! I do tend to come off a little strong and I shouldn't. I honestly don't mean to. I’m a passionate person, but I try not to be too judgmental. I just want everyone to be happy, safe and agree with me…what’s wrong with that? (tongue in cheek, lol) =) "

MarshaMarsha wrote on May 7, 2008 10:38 AM:

" Well, after having my own opinion bashed (hope you allow your teens to have their own opinions...), I looked up the history of "The Prom". Turns out that it's basic function is to allow young adults to learn social etiquitte in preparation for adult life. How to dress, how to dine, how to behave as an adult in a formal atmosphere. So "freaking" is not appropriate for such an event. I am corrected.

However: Dancing IS a way of practicing freedom of expression. But lewd (or "lude" as one girl with opinion wrote....LOL) expression is not something that would be acceptable at an elite event like Prom. According to history, Prom is for best dress, best escort, and best behavior, and "freaking" is not the best our teens can do. "

lousy naive ignorant napan wrote on May 7, 2008 9:45 AM:

" opiniagirl: I will not approve of my daughter dancing like this, just like my mother didn't approve of me doing it. If it was up to me, she wouldn't date until she's 35.
I have no problem with the school trying to control drugs and alcohol at a school sanctioned event. I have no problem with the school demanding that people keep their clothes on. I just find it really amusing that the school is trying to control they way people dance. I have no doubt that dancing has changed since I've left school, but in the scheme of things, there are a lot of worse things that high school kids can do than "freak" dancing. "

opiniagirl wrote on May 7, 2008 8:37 AM:

" lousy naive ignorant napan: Wait until that beautiful baby daughter of yours is surrounded by peers that want to grind against her like their having sex..albeit with their clothes on. We'll see what your opinion is then. Children are so vulnerabel, what does it say to children when adults APPROVE of this behavior? You may have done this as a teen, but would you have done it if your mom was standing right there, if the answer to that is "yes", I feel REALLY sorry for your mom. Should you start fighting for the rights of teens to act stupid and make foolish mistakes, because you did? The "freak" dancing of our time was a little different than it is now. Now it is 10 times worse! Kids even disrobe and add sound effects now! I wasn't implying that all girls that did this in high school were skanks, they just didn't respect themselves enough to hold a classier standard of public behavior. "

pat wrote on May 7, 2008 8:31 AM:

" Dwayne wrote “It's abundantly clear that the "school" has failed to teach personal responsibility. It's no wonder that our schools are a total failure." I can not believe you think it is the school’s responsibility to teach personal responsibility. As a parent, do you believe you have any responsibilities in raising your children? Here, I fixed the quote for you. ““It's abundantly clear that parents have failed to teach personal responsibility. It's no wonder that our schools have such a hard time teaching our children. " "

besmartbesafe wrote on May 7, 2008 7:28 AM:

" I think that the most important thing is that our children are safe at school events and that they will respect themselves the next day!!

Drugs are a high concern of many parents. The kids that choose to take drugs will find a way to do so.....but what about the kids who fall victim to drugs slipped into their drink or given to them in a stick of gum....those kids didn't make the choice, it was made for them and the result of what may happen later is a terrible one that nobody wants to experience.

We we all kids at one point and during the time of our teen years we all thought that the rules were to strict!! This will also be the same feeling of our grandkids, and great-grandkids, etc...

I want my child to have a good time, what I want more is for my child to be safe. The restrictions while many are needed to ensure that safety. I am sure that the parents of the child who may overdose, or drink to the point of possible death, i can go on but don't really need too....wouldn't hesitate to blame the school in one way or another for not protecting their child, if anything terrible were to happen to thier child!!! "

writergirl wrote on May 7, 2008 12:13 AM:

" Wow....This is very scary to me that our schools are willing to take away so many freedoms of so many kids, that may have never even tried drugs, because of a few that have created a problem.

I hope the community sees the parallel in this reaction to the obscene degradation of our constitution and bill of rights.

I hope those in charge at Vintage seriously think about the implications of their actions and realize the ineffectiveness of this solution. In cases like this, those who want to do drugs will always find a way.

The way to change a society is to provide out-reach, support, and education for those at risk- Things that, evidently our current government - and now our school system - don't seem to value. "

lousy naive ignorant napan wrote on May 6, 2008 11:24 PM:

" opiniagirl: My girlfriend at the time (now my wife and the mother of my beautiful baby daughter) and I did the "freak" at highschool dances. She is not a "skank" and I respect her a lot. Guess what... we both graduated high school... and college! We both have good jobs and pay taxes. We serve jury duty. We vote.
Whether or not you believe that this type of dancing is appropriate for a high school prom, you shouldn't pass judgement on those who do it. "

vocal-de-local wrote on May 6, 2008 10:19 PM:

" controm, have you actually seen this type of dancing on a dance floor? If not, you are not in a position to judge. If adults want to make a fool out of themselves, fine. I saw an old lady on a cruise ship dancing like this. She was old enough to be a grandma. It was hilarious and no one could keep a straight face. But it's not so funny seeing non adult teens doing it.

At least someone has enough common sense to allow birth control into the prom, preferably condoms, just in case it turns into an org-y. I can hardly believe parents let their kids attend these functions.

I guess we must ask ourselves, are we ready to go to the next place of publicly displayed sexual acts? It's possible you know. I think teens today are subjected to way too much internet access to forbidden sites and reality tv.

And...this is not Elvis. Sure parents didn't like him, but at least Elvis was dancing by himself. It's quite another matter when people are mimicking sex between two or more people. What's next? We've been to this place before, historically speaking, in Rome. Is that the direction we want to head? Backwards? "

opiniagirl wrote on May 6, 2008 9:58 PM:

" Dwane - when did it become the schools job to teach personal responsibility? It's the parent’s job, but parents don't bother, which leaves the schools to reap the consequences. People who can't raise personally responsible kids should never have become parents. Parenting your child is not optional or the responsibility of the government! There is no excuse for out of control teenagers, the parents are at fault...ALWAYS! Unless the teen has mental problems, and if that’s the case monitor them 24 hours a day or institutionalize them if you can't, when did it become society’s job to monitor children, it's only necessay because parents won't do it themselves?

I just love it when people say “I lost control, and I just had to let my child find his (or her) own way and suffer natural consequences!” Are you kidding? What you did was “give up” and unleash an uncivilized brat onto society and let his or her victims do the parenting for you. Nice job! Here’s an idea…Parents…if your kid has gotten boozed up, hopped in the back of car, popped some pills or participated in any other CRIMINAL behavior, keep them home from the prom and save the rest of us the burden of monitoring their behavior. Now that’s an opportunity to parent in a way that could change the direction of your morally struggling child’s life! Quit being scared of your own children and whip them into shape before law enforcement does!
"

opiniagirl wrote on May 6, 2008 9:44 PM:

" Controm: Sorry; you would lose your little bet - the freak was "available" when I was in high school. However; I didn't "freak" with my high school crush (who later became my husband) because I wasn't a skank and he was respectful of me as his girlfriend and a female. Also, it was implied earlier that this is a form of "expression" (see Marshamarsha); which is just plain silly.

Elvis and Madonna were criticized for their "ludeness", however, people had a choice not to subject themselves to the vulgarity if they were uncomfortable with it, why should the kids who find overtly sexual dancing offensive be subjected to it at their own Prom. Refraining from this behavior is appropriate for this particular venue.

Maybe the morally lacking parents can all get together and throw their teens a separate party so that their children can "express themselves" in a private setting and others can enjoy their school sponsored Prom without being mortified by the lude conduct of their morally looser peers.
"

controm wrote on May 6, 2008 8:47 PM:

" to "momtoo" nobody said that this was a form of of self expression it is merly a new way of dancing different from what your used to so therefore you are just scared of something you dont know would you say that elvis was criticized for his different style of dancing???? of course.... all im trying to say is that you shouldnt put down something that you do not know or have expirienced i bet if your highschool crush wanted to "freak" with you at a dance youd be glad to "

Dwayne wrote on May 6, 2008 5:39 PM:

" Why even have a dance...???

Every one of the teens are being treated like they are perpetrators of some kind. It's abundantly clear that the "school" has failed to teach personal responsibility. It's no wonder that our schools are a total failure. "

momtoo wrote on May 6, 2008 5:33 PM:

" I saw this one already! It's called "footloose"! Ha! Just kidding!
If kids want to dance like they are having intercourse and do drugs and the parents are dumb enough to see no wrongdoing, then let them. But not at a school function for goodness sakes! yuck! And to anyone that thinks this "freak" dancing is just self expression, then I don't think you are looking hard enough. The moves are appropriate inside the bedroom,and ridiculous outside of it. "

FerrariGTC wrote on May 6, 2008 5:22 PM:

" This story has been dugg. It is way too funny. http://digg.com/odd_stuff/No_Freaking_Keeping_prom_night_clean "

twinmama wrote on May 6, 2008 5:10 PM:

" OK... How in THIS world did this article get front page billing???? Apparently, the freaking has not stopped at the high school level.

Regarding the sign. Most signs generally have a picture for those that can't read... There is NOTHING about the image that suggests dancing... Surely it means NO SEX here!

Also... REALLY??? You're going to be TOUCHING students? Patting them all down? Wow.. I can remember a few freaky teachers at my high school that would have jumped at the opportunity to chaperone... Put some monitors in the BATHROOM... that's where they go to do their drugs... don't allow students to come and go from the dance... Assume that drug users know how to get a fix... regardless of how stupid their behavior is.

Start a drug education program on campus... IE... in your science classes where students actually learn (if they are still capable of what drugs do to their bodies and brains at the cellular level... trust me... half their parents don't even know....

Known drug offenders should not be able to purchase tickets (come on... crack down before the dance!!!)

Or how about a monitored Coat Check... Say NEAR the photo section???? Allowing kids to spruce up before their pics.rs

Hard to beleive that it's educators that came up with this practice... and you think you're qualified to teach??? "

nvchell wrote on May 6, 2008 3:46 PM:

" How dumb are the kids today. Why would they bring the drugs on person to the prom, What happened to taking the drugs before the dance begins? "

xmrs09 wrote on May 6, 2008 3:23 PM:

" Where's the middle ground in this discussion? As responsible adults, we must do what we can to keep our teens safe – and that means keeping drugs and alcohol out of school-sanctioned events. How about supplying single-use lipsticks at the dance or buying a bunch of different colors and letting the girls apply it with a Q-tip prior to pictures? "

Concerned Citizen wrote on May 6, 2008 3:07 PM:

" I don't want my kids to be whores, pimps, cheap toys or pieces of meat. Period. If acting like that is cool, then someone lost it somewhere. Yeah, free speach = fornicating on the floor with an audience. How totally cool! "

pat wrote on May 6, 2008 3:06 PM:

" I couldn’t agree with you more, Opiniagirl. Parents can not expect the schools, society or MTV to raise their children. Having said that, parents have had issues with how their children have danced for as long as dances have existed. Be an active and involved parent, support your child in all the positive things they do and discipline them when they need it. Be more of a parent and less of a friend and your child will be equipped to make good choices.
By the way, anyone know where I can get one of those signs? That is hilarious. Maybe some young entrepreneur will get some shirts made and sell them at school. I’ll take two, please.
"

proudmom wrote on May 6, 2008 2:55 PM:

" Wow! I read the whole article and it's just so funny that birth control pills are being allowed at a prom!? WTF? don't you usually take those before going out, what... are they allowed to take condoms?...my guess would be they are, sounds to me like the school promotes sex more than the dance moves they are trying to banned!

To the kids: Maybe its too late now, but next year try and make your own prom if the schools are going to control every aspect of your lives, then there is no hope for your future. Prom is your last dance in high school...you should be able to enjoy it as you please....we are trying to move forward not backwards with the generations! My son wanted a mohawk haircut, so I let him have it and guess what the school almost had a cow!...first they tell us that they NEED uniforms...what! I'm sorry but I cannot continue to have the schools tell me how my son is going to dress, or what his haircut should look like! "

kayd44 wrote on May 6, 2008 1:31 PM:

" Goodness, at least the girls are allowed to bring in their birth control pills. That is pathetic.
I think the schools should monitor, but the kids will find a way to bring things in, just to get some attention. I honestly don't believe they care what it is they smuggle in, just that fact that they got by the adults. "

opiniagirl wrote on May 6, 2008 12:57 PM:

" MarshaMarsha: "Oh great, are you yet another parent ready to call the ACLU on Napa Schools?" Free expression??? This is a private event subject to rules by its sponsor. Don’t worry; nobody is saying these kids can't act like sexualized monkeys on the streets or in public places.

The only reason that the school has to adopt these policies is because parents aren't raising kids with any type of moral compass. As a prior respectful teen and parent of 4 respectful moral children (including 1 teen daughter), I'm disappointed not in the school or the kids; but the parents that refuse to raise their children and let society do it for them. My teenage daughter finds this behavior foul and has the right not to have it shoved in her face. How about them apples?


"

skiph wrote on May 6, 2008 12:28 PM:

" The elders of Napa can't stand dancing...Those movies where balloons were put between dancers must be inspiration for them. I agree that the prom will be the best dance for anyone choosing to stay in Napa as an adult.

Why is everything so much about prevention? My restricting the masses to stop the few, it seems like proms and social functions are more like prisons with decorations.

Why doesn't Napa have any clubs? I remember in the late 90's we had at least 4 of them.

When I drove a taxi...one of the most often asked questions by the tourists was "Where's a good place to dance?". My standard answer was "anywhere but Napa". "

tazzmaster wrote on May 6, 2008 12:19 PM:

" JUST DON'T GO. STAY WAY FROM PROM AND HAVE YOUR OWN PROM. LET THE SCHOOL EAT THE COST FOR IT. AS A PERSON WITH ASMATHA, THEY CAN NOT KEEP YOU FROM BRING A INHALER WITH YOU, BECAUSE THEY WOULD BE BREAKIN THE LAW. IT JUST SOUND'S LIKE THEY WANT TO TAKE A WAY EVERY THING AND ANY THING THAT IS FUN, JUST LIKE THE CITY NAPA. "

pharper wrote on May 6, 2008 12:15 PM:

" Take a lesson from New Tech High--at our prom on May 3, we didn't even need a security check, because we trust our students. "

jenny99 wrote on May 6, 2008 12:15 PM:

" It is a privilege, not a right, to attend a prom. Schools have rules and standards for a reason, just as society does. If it's too upsetting to you that you can't bring lipstick to the prom and that you can't pretend to have sex on the dance floor, then don't go.
"

lousy naive ignorant napan wrote on May 6, 2008 12:04 PM:

" They need to have a fund raiser where they sell those signs... It's so sad they won't let the kids freak anymore... Does anyone out there in their mid 20s remember the song Freaks of the Industry being played at EVERY school dance? Times have changed... "

vocal-de-local wrote on May 6, 2008 11:47 AM:

" I'm glad I home schooled my son and he doesn't attend these dances. He's not missing out. These proms are not the same proms I grew up with. Trust me, if chaperones weren't present, the drugs would be flowing all over the place. I just do not think these places are for healthy fun anymore. It's about who can out compete the other with the most provocative dance or greatest level of drugs.

On a personal level, I like dancing. My extended family go on many vacations together and we invariably end out in some dance club somewhere. I do not live a particularly sheltered life. But the part where they begin mimicking sexual acts, that's where I draw the line. And teenagers, in a competitive dance environment, will go to that place and beyond because of their lack of experience with self control.

If my teen attended one of these functions, I would keep an eye on the situation, make certain that at least one of the chaperone's was well acquainted with my child and that the chaperone to student ratio was high. And I would be appreciative of the higher surveillance.

We should also be concerned about comments from people like wowquebonita who say, "Teens aren't dumb...we're very creative and sneaky"

What kind of monsters have we raised? It's not very bonita, not at all and either is her comment. Here's my comment to wowquebonita: What's dumb is frying a still developing brain with hard drugs so that you cannot function in the adult work world. So go ahead, be creative and sneaky, ruin your potential so that you'll be working fast food the rest of your life. Hardly a creative endeavor. "

MarshaMarsha wrote on May 6, 2008 10:23 AM:

" Seems that telling someone, even a teen, that they cannot dance a certain way is suppression of expression. I would consider that to be a violation of our First Amendment to free speech. Great lesson your teaching our youth, that it's OKay to deny people the right to harmlessly express themselves by dancing. Also, ban whatever items you like, but you are only insulting the intelligence of our teenagers. They are much much smarter than you believe. Those that want to bring drugs to the prom will find a way, and then they will laugh at the "chaperones" for being such idiots. The rivalry between prom teens and chaparones has been going on for decades.

Just remember: These teens, the ones that you are bullying to conform to YOUR standards? They are the same ones who will pick your nursing home. "

tgrl707 wrote on May 6, 2008 9:21 AM:

" i'm truley in disbelief...... i understand that teenagers can be sneaky, but why make the whole school suffer because a few kids want to be stupid? no chapstick or lipstick- give me a break, senior prom is suppose to be the last dance these kids will go to. i know i look back and show my kids my pictures and remember how much fun we had...and lipstick was something i put on right before my pictures..with all the amount of money that goes into prom, you would think a better solution could be made - i must say vintage and napa are WAY overboard, maybe they should take some pointers from justin sienna and give these children a break. keeping an eye on them and breathalizing those who they think are "acting" different. heres an idea- why don't you get a dog trained in sniffing out drugs, then the people who are creative about where they can put there contraband can be detected too! "

Grape-Town wrote on May 6, 2008 9:15 AM:

" I agree with you "savetycoon"..... "

pat wrote on May 6, 2008 9:02 AM:

" It’s kind of stupid that we have to be forced to dance without chapstick" I love this quote. And this story is front page, above the fold. Meanwhile, a cyclone kills 22,000 in Myanmar with 41,000 missing. But let's worry about dancing without chapstick. "

my2cents68 wrote on May 6, 2008 8:43 AM:

" "dresses may not be lifted above the waist" Huh??? What the heck are they doing?? Geez, how times have changed. When I went to prom I wore a strapless sheath style long dress and I thought it was pretty daring at the time. Now they have to keep their dresses down?? Not only that but they have to be TOLD to do it?

And then my kids wonder why I'm so paranoid about keeping them safe and constantly "on their backs". Right now, young teens look up to the older ones to see what's "cool" and then as they say, it's monkey see, monkey tries to do. I wish older teens would take this into consideration. Whether they like it or not, they are also role models for the younger generations.
"

bearsinnapa wrote on May 6, 2008 8:11 AM:

" After chaperoning a sweet sixteen, I thank the principal for forbiding this dance they call "Freaking". I am a fairly open minded parent, however this display of sexual conduct is beyond appropriate. (especially when it is boy on girl on girl on boy! etc. etc. ) I hope all the students realize what a great time they can have without all the unneccessary extras. (drugs, alcohol, etc. ) Please be safe. "

cordell wrote on May 6, 2008 8:08 AM:

" I'm all for keeping the teens as safe as possible, but isn't this going way overboard? It's like Homeland Security run amuck. "

savetycoon wrote on May 6, 2008 8:05 AM:

" haha, although i do admit that is like the best sign ever.. this is hilarious. I think that every one, including teenagers should be able to dance the way they want as long as clothes dont start coming off. Other than that, let them enjoy their prom nights and other dances, because they will only expiereance these kinda dances once in thier life, and let them remember that they had fun during that nightm not that they got kicked out or yelled at for dancing the way they wanted to dance. my motto is If the clothes aint coming off keep dancing. "

make napa better wrote on May 6, 2008 7:58 AM:

" Sorry children, it's just as bad for us adults. This is the best dance you'll get unless you go out of town. Napa doesn't even allow adults to freak!

If you've ever seen the movie footloose, it's soooo like this town!


Been working so hard
I'm punching my card
Eight hours, for what
Oh, tell me what I got
I've done this feeling
That time's just holding me down
I'll hit the ceiling
Or else I'll tear up this town
Now I gotta cut

Loose, footloose
Kick off your Sunday shoes
Please, Louise
Pull me offa my knees
Jack, get back
C'mon before we crack
Lose your blues
Everybody cut footloose
You're playing so cool
Obeying every rule
Dig way down in your heart
You're yearning, yearning for some
Somebody to tell you
That life ain't passing you by
I'm trying to tell you
It will if you don't even try
You can fly if you'd only cut

Loose, footloose
Kick off your Sunday shoes
Oowhee, Marie
Shake it, shake it for me
Whoa, Milo
C'mon, c'mon let's go
Lose your blues
Everybody cut footloose
We got to turn you around
You put your feet on the ground
Now take a hold of your ball
I'm turning it

(Repeat *) "

skippert wrote on May 6, 2008 7:22 AM:

" It seems like they just want to show off what kind of drugs they have. Otherwise why wouldn't they just do it and then go to the dance. What is with taking it with you? The kids these days have no one to talk to and reason with them on these issues. They just have parents that say it is bad don't do it. Not good enough. Give them examples of why, don't do it. Don't just say it. It also seems like they are trying to do it all. "

wowquebonita wrote on May 6, 2008 1:24 AM:

" Lame Lame Lame! Here's an idea stuff your contraband in your crotch :) Teens aren't dumb....we're very creative and sneaky "

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